I Like “Memento Mori”
Hello, friends! This week’s edition of “Things I Like” is about something deeper, a concept that has stayed with me for a long time and continues to impact how I view life and practice as a therapist: *memento mori*. This Latin phrase, meaning “remember that you will die,” may sound a bit bleak, but it’s actually a powerful reminder of life’s preciousness. The idea of *memento mori* asks us to contemplate our mortality, and in doing so, to embrace each moment with purpose and presence.
Embracing Mortality to Enhance Life
It’s easy to get swept up in the daily routines and goals that make up modern life, to the point where we forget that our time is finite. *Memento mori* isn’t about dwelling on death; rather, it’s a call to appreciate life’s brevity. When we keep our mortality in mind, the little things become precious—conversations, meals, quiet moments, the people we love. This awareness invites us to live more fully, to make choices that align with what we truly value, rather than just going through the motions.
### Finding Purpose in Impermanence
One of the most powerful aspects of *memento mori* is how it reframes the meaning of purpose. Purpose isn’t just about achieving grand accomplishments; it’s also about finding meaning in the everyday. Knowing our time is limited nudges us to focus on what brings us fulfillment and joy—relationships, creativity, helping others. I often talk with clients about how this perspective can alleviate anxiety around “having it all” and shift our focus to what genuinely enriches our lives.
Fostering Compassion and Gratitude
Reflecting on mortality can also be a path to compassion. When we remember that each of us is only here for a short time, it’s easier to treat others with kindness and patience. Practicing *memento mori* encourages us to be grateful for the present and to savor our time with the people we love. This compassion isn’t just outward—it can be directed inward, too. If we’re each only here for a short while, then why not be gentle with ourselves?
Living with Intention
*Memento mori* challenges us to live with intention, to be mindful of the choices we make, and to seek presence in each moment. We don’t know what tomorrow holds, and while that uncertainty can feel overwhelming, it can also be liberating. Letting go of the need to control everything allows us to engage more authentically with life, letting each day be a fresh opportunity to know ourselves, love ourselves, and, in some ways, prepare for the inevitable with peace.
Conclusion
*Memento mori* is a reminder of life’s transience and, in turn, a call to live deeply. While it may seem daunting, I find the concept to be one of hope, urging us to be present, embrace what matters most, and foster gratitude for each day we have. Thanks for joining me this week in “Things I Like.” Until next time, remember: know yourself, love yourself, and don’t shy away from living fully.